The Big Fat Indian Wedding..

Blame it on the Ministers; blame it on the Businessmen; blame it on the Superstars, but our Indian marriage ceremonies are seeing a hefty rise in expenditure. From the plush decorations to the royal wedding cake, from the theme based marriages to the high definition images, from the biggest venues to the largest dinner menus, if you have the bucks to give, you have the best wedding experience.


Gone are the days, when people used to involve them with the functions and considered it as a moral duty to serve all the guests. With the much ‘show sha’ around, the real flavor of the true Indian wedding is getting lost. Who is to be blamed? Let’s find out.

1. The daily soaps: We get influenced by what we see, don’t we? Don’t we have an inherent desire to dress up in the same ‘heavy designer saree/lehnga’ or ‘sherwani’ as worn by the famous daily soap stars? Those big rich tycoon families being telecast, ‘The Viranis’, ‘The Modis’, ‘The Goenkas’, wear dresses such as these, the cost of which hover anywhere around 20,000 bucks.


The race behind getting that dazzling look from the designer bridal dresses to the groom’s most expensive Mojdis pinches hard on the wallet. Those who argue its one time investment, forget it is only for one time indeed.

2. Parlour Rush: Shehnaz Hussain may be the trendsetter, but now we have a chain of brands that charge tremendously, for making it perfect for your ‘D-Day’. You have sittings for months before you dazzle the red carpet like a diva. Boys are no exception here and one can easily find several beauty salon for the grooms which charge for the perfect eyebrow arches to the facial glow on the face. No more home-made Haldi chandan or Uptan enlivens the skin.

3. Gold is old: There is no typing error here. Old is Gold is the long forgotten proclamation. Time for the Platinum saga has ushered in. People come in with demands for Platinum rings and chains. Presumably Gold ring doesn’t suit their class.


Diamond jewelry has found its own niche. Has Gold become as ‘cheap’ as that? Really? If gold is in actuality inexpensive, I want my article to be written in golden letters! Wink!

4. Gaadi bula rahi hai: She is your own daughter. Don’t you want her to go in a big luxury car from your house? The grooms usually ask for such cars which they always dreamed of owning. What is better time than this to own it? The state of mind has to change for this hunger to end. If you cannot have it on your own, you better don’t ask for it. But moral education? Didn’t we sleep through that ‘no dowry’ lecture in our school days..Duh!!

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5. Bad examples: The world is a place of boasters these days. If one books a big venue, the other would book a bigger one, just to show off. Amid these show offs are grinded the middle class mango people who just have to buckle to the demands of the groom’s family. Once a large venue is booked, the menu should be larger than life. There is always too much food flowing around the venue. From the cold pastas to the golgappas, from Dosas to mocktails, cocktails, Chinese and of course the main course.


A person of a normal appetite can generally never eat all of this in one night. The Groom’s side demands it with a saying ‘Ji, Dekhiye, Hamara ek hi beta hai, shaadi toh achhi honi hi chahiye’, and the Bride’s side succumbs to it. Adding masalas to these sillyness are movies like ‘Humpty Sharma Ki Dulhaniya’ which help in perpetuating such charades.

We are running a rat race blindfolded, copying each other, without realizing that in this mad rush of events, of Show off, of false pride, we forget that it is the bride and the groom whose new life should be given a good head start. We focus on what other people would think of the marriage and never end up realizing what the marriage would end up to.

Those who have surplus should set ideal examples of marriages. If you have surplus, give it to the newlyweds, to secure their future, since everyone forgets a plush dinner of one night. Remember life is not about one moment, but a series of moments; so to decorate one moment, don’t let the glitter of the other moments fade away…coz thatslyf.

About Author



Dhruva Awasthi is a young and dynamic writer with fresh thoughts and a firm believer that writing is the best form of expression. He crossed the threshold from his mundane arduous work life into the world of writing because of his pure love for penning down the thoughts which entwines his mind. He is an Engineer by profession and a writer by choice. He has a flair for writing on a wide array of genres spreading his wings from politics, food, health, spiritual to poetry, drama and fiction. Dhruva is methodical and punctilious and hopes to bring realism to the table, through his writings and through Thatslyf.


    • Rajaya
      November 6, 2014

      This is a worth read. We should not only read it, but make it a reality, as somewhere one has to initiate a beginning for such a change. I hope more and more people read this article and realise the wastage of hard earned money they are doing with big bang weddings, which can be utilised elsewhere.

      • Dhruva Awasthi
        November 12, 2014

        Indeed, I hope more and more people realise this fact and the wastage of money comes to a definite end. Thanks for your valuable comment.

    • Raj
      November 4, 2014

      A very responsible post. Each and every parent should read it. A lot of wastage of money happens in marriages, instead we should go for a simple and comfortable wedding rather than running the rat race. Looking for more such posts.

    • vivek
      November 3, 2014

      Each and every word is true..dont know when the society will realize this.

    • swati
      November 3, 2014

      Very true and bitter reality..

    • Rajkumar
      November 3, 2014

      An eye opener for young and also for old who have become super rich in last 15 -20 yrs. Only wastage of money for poor and meddle class,who otherwise survives on Bank loan

      • Dhruva Awasthi
        November 12, 2014

        You have raised a valuable point here. The easy availability of money due to bank loans is one of the prime reasons for such an increase in the big fat weddings. Thanks for the read.

    • shaily yadav
      November 1, 2014

      Gr88 wrk Dhruv…..:) interesting article to read n relate with…:)


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