Lessons From A Failed Relationship…
Relationships are beautiful. But when the relationship hits the rock and the two much-in-love individuals part ways, the feeling of sorrow can’t be explained in words. No doubt break ups are always painful. But even a broken relationship can teach you a number of lessons. Love is beautiful, but is not as simple as it seems to be.
If the relationship doesn’t go well; don’t lose the hope and abstain from playing that blame game. Don’t blame yourself or your Ex for the abrupt end of the relationship. Instead, analyse what went wrong, what mistakes you both did, what were the issues that caused this bad to your relationship and what you can learn from it. Your relationship must have left you devastated; in this article I am focussing on what you can learn from a failed relationship.
The issue of space
If you believe in the ideology that true love means that 24 X 7, you both need to be together, then this is a blunder you are doing to your relationship. If you expect your partner to be with you all the time and completely forget his/her own social life, set of friends and family, then what more can you expect for. The relationship is bound to hit the rocks. Understand the fact that every individual has its own identity and hence needs some space. Let your partner breathe in the relationship; don’t suffocate them.
Your partner isn’t your property
We live in a democratic country, hence we have the fundamental right of expressing ourselves. Irrespective of the number of years you both have spent in the relationship, you still don’t own each other. You are just committed to each other and to the beautiful feeling of love. Since you don’t own the person, you cannot make decisions for your significant person. So, don’t build any rules for your relationship, just trust your partner and respect him/her. Respect at times becomes a big issue.
Don’t try to change your partner
Often girls tend to commit this mistake, they try to make amendments in the habits as well as the personality of their partners. They try to show them what is right and what is not, which often acts as a troubleshooter in the relationship. The thing is, even if you dislike certain habit of your partner, tell him in a mild way, so that the reaction is different. You can always make good things happen by staying calm and not reminding him again and again, about his problem areas.
Get rid of the silly conflicts
Often the small and silly conflicts turn into an iceberg and cause your love titanic to sink. If you feel some conflict is at its start, try clearing the issue there and then. If you leave it for the future, the issue might get bigger; as both of you will pile on the stuff you dislike about each other and when you will get into the argument, the scene might take an ugly turn. To avoid such conflicts, always give importance to your love and your relationship and not to the small issues that crops up in due course.
There comes a time in a relationship when the dynamics change and two partners change their course; that is the time when you should let go the relationship. The reason being absence of love in the love den. If you feel that the relationship is not worth your time and feelings, gracefully let the relation die its natural death. There is no point lamenting on what has gone, because what has gone is just the name sake relationship. Love had evaporated long ago.
Relationships do hold great significance in our lives. It brings to us some of the fondest memories of our lives. But it is not necessary for every relationship to reach its desired end. Some relationship ends just like that. But we need to gather the courage to overcome the pain of the broken relationship coz that’s lyf!!!